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Dear Twenty-Something

Your Dreams Are Not Dead

April 21, 2018

20 April 2018

 

“Wildflower; pick up your pretty little head,
It will get easier, your dreams are not dead.”

– Nikki Rowe

 

Dear Twenty- Something,

Does it feel like everything is just hitting rock bottom for you right now? The stress keeps mounting, and all those things you are working so hard to accomplish feel like they are never going to come to fruition.

Get the degree, they said. You won’t regret it. Yet, as you sit through another group meeting on a Friday night, you have to ask yourself: was this really all that worth it? You gave up so much of your life for this. It better be worth it.

Quit the job, you decided. But you also don’t know how to have free time, and you are constantly worried about how others might see you.

Stop.

Breathe.

There you go. You’ve got this.

Everything happens for a reason. Isn’t that a mantra you preach to your friends?

You are exactly where you need to be, in this exact moment in time. Do not forget that.

Soak in every moment. You will never be in this exact moment again. Don’t miss any part of it.

Look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself those questions that helped to form the person you are today:

Who am I? What do I want?

It’s time for an update anyways. Your dreams have evolved, just as you have, and a re-evaluation is always welcome in your life.

You are strong. You are beatiful. You are loved.

Don’t ever forget it.

-S

 

Dear Twenty-Something

So Can You

April 15, 2018

15 April 2018

“If

the ocean

can calm itself,

so can you.

we

are both

salt water

mixed with

air.”

– Nayyirah Waheed

 

Dear Twenty- Something,

Take a deep breath. It’s all going to work out okay. I know that sometimes it feels like the world is against you, and no matter how hard you try to make it all work it just doesn’t.

Recently your life has felt tumultuous. Actually, lets rephrase that, your life has felt like a tsunami that just keeps hitting over and over again, each wave seeming bigger than the last.

Find your anchor and hold on for dear life. This too will pass, and when it does, the calm will be surprising.

Take some time to really see where this life thing is trying to take you. One day at a time, you’ll start to figure it out.

Be still. In the recesses of your soul lies a strength you didn’t know existed.

Be grateful. Your life is beautiful.

Take the next step and do not be afraid to see where the new adventure is taking you!

I believe in you.

-S

P.S. Sorry that this is a few days late. Behind the blog is a girl with friends to celebrate, and family to support. But I am happy to put this up now 🙂 See you tomorrow friends!

Dear Twenty-Something

What Could You Do With 15 Minutes?

February 9, 2018

9 February 2018

“The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.” – Henry David Thoreau

Dear Twenty- Something,

Now is as good a time as ever to re-evaluate the way your days go.

How much of your day is spent scrolling through your feed?

Or maybe sending amazing snapchats?

If you had to leave it behind today, do you think you’d be okay?

How much do these online versions of yourself “cost”?  Go ahead and eliminate the parts of your virtual self that just don’t make you happy any more.

Yes. I am challenging YOU. Do what is going to make you a happier, healthier, better person. Make space for the things that lift you up, rather than the things that bog you down.

-S

PS- In the time I would have been scrolling I was able to clean my whole kitchen… I wonder what other things I would be able to accomplish in a 15 minute span if I just wasn’t constantly scrolling… What could you be doing in those extra 15 minutes too?!

 

Dear Twenty-Something

Happiness, Living in My Environment

February 4, 2018

4 February 2018

“The objective of cleaning is not just to clean, but to feel happiness living within that environment.”- Marie Kondo

Dear Twenty- Something,

I know that life can be overwhelming. So often it seems that things start piling up, and then they just don’t stop.

Skip one day of laundry and all of a sudden you have no clean clothes.

May as well stop buying fresh food, am I right? It all goes to the drawer of good intentions anyways because you forgot you bought it and its probably a certifiable science experiment.

Don’t even get me started on the pantry. Forget KonMari. That cannot be real.

But wait… hold on! There is hope yet.

Take a deep breath. Yes, life is crazy busy and you feel like you don’t have nearly enough time in a day. But it will only take you a few hours. Set aside the time. “Ground” yourself for just one day. Throw dinner in the crockpot and tackle a few things so you can breathe this week.

Pick up all those loose papers from your assignments this week and put the pillows back on the couch.

Reorganize your tupperware cabinet so you can find all of the lids.

Throw out all the expired food and put all of the snacks you can still eat in easy to reach areas so when you are packing your lunch you are ready to go.

All of a sudden, dinner is ready, the house is clean and you’re ready to watch some football.

I promise it doesn’t take that long, and that the peace you’ll feel afterwards is so worth it.

Call it a mental health day.

Do it for yourself. You won’t regret it.

 

-S

Dear Twenty-Something

Eat.Sleep.Work.Repeat.

January 27, 2018

26 January 2018

“Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day.” – A.A. Milne, Winnie the Pooh

Dear Twenty- Something,

Take a deep breath. Keep going. I know you want to have everything figured out right this very second. Don’t we all?

There is no hurry. One day is enough to worry about without needing to worry about all the rest of the days too. Get through today. Get through this week. Get through this month. Get through this year.

Change is coming. Can you feel it in the breeze? Good things are coming, just wait and see.

 

Finish the paper.

 

Submit one more document.

 

Go to one more class.

 

eat.sleep.work.repeat.

 

The Grind. 

 

You’ve got this. I believe in you!

 

– S

P.S. Drink all of the grapefruit seltzer. You deserve a little bit of extra joy in your life.

Dear Twenty-Something

Tell Him Your Plans

January 20, 2018

20 January 2018

“All I have seen teaches me to trust the Creator for all I have not seen.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Dear Twenty- Something,

Remember 5 years ago when you laughed at the idea of the quarter life crisis? You thought you had your life under control and the plan you had laid out ahead of you was golden.

Let me share one of my favorite phrases with you: “Want to see God laugh? Tell Him your plans.”

Welp… what goes around, comes around sweetheart.

Just when you tell God that you are willing to trust Him and His plan, and you are okay not knowing the details…. He will take you up on that.

In the moments that follow, when you are scared and wondering what the hell you just did, keep telling yourself to seek out the peace you felt in that initial yes.

He will come through. He will make your wildest dreams come true. He will pave the way.

If faith the size of a mustard seed moves mountains, then let your trust be 10x the size of that.

A deep and unrelenting trust. No matter how scared you are- keep saying yes. Keep telling Him you trust him. If you can find this trust, you will find the tiniest bit of faith, and He will make straight your path.

-S

 

P.S. Read this again when you’re 37 and you think that 50 won’t hold some massive change in your life. Mid-Life crises is probably just as real as quarter life crisis.

Dear Twenty-Something

She Made It Work

January 13, 2018

“She was tough in the best sense of the word. She’d taken blows, the disappointments, and had worked her way through them. Some people, he knew, would have buckled under, found a clutch, or given up. But she had carved a place for herself and made it work.” – Nora Roberts

Dear Twenty- Something,

Once upon a time, a friend told you she never knew anyone who gave 110% to every single thing that they did until she met you.

You pondered this for months, wondering if it was a blessing or a curse. Was it possible to give your all to everything without half- assing any of it?

But you started to realize that she was right. Something in the depths of your soul does not allow you to not give everything your all. No matter how tired you are, no matter how many things keep being added to your plate, you always manage to dig a little deeper and find strength from some unknown reserve.

For so many years you wondered if this would ever pay off. This constant cycle of not being able to give less than your best.

Don’t ever stop. Keep at it. Keep giving it your all. Learn how to take a step back from the activities that aren’t what you should be giving your all to at this current moment. But then jump back in to the rest with gusto.

Be the person you were created to be. Hard working. Tough as nails. A smile on your face.

Keep at it. Don’t ever give up. Keep your head held high. Write one more paper. Get dressed up for one more class. Stay up the extra hour. Get up on hour earlier.

You’ve got this. I believe in you.

– S

Dear Twenty-Something

Just Be

January 5, 2018

5 January 2018

“I live my life in growing orbits which move out over this wondrous world, I am circling around God, around ancient towers and i have been circling for a thousand years. And I still don’t know if I am an eagle or a storm or a great song.”- Ranier Maria Rilke

Dear Twenty- Something,

On a dreamy night filled with bubbles and dancing, the ideas of a fresh start seem to invigorate the soul, begging you just to take the plunge into being the best.

But then the glitz and the glamour of the new year wears off. And all of a sudden you are left with these commitments you have made, even though you only whispered them to yourself.

Stay strong, dear heart. Courage is what you need. The idea of just being is far more important than the idea of being perfect.

It’s 100% okay to not have it all figured out and to not know what you are in this great big life that you are adventuring through.

Commit to learning to love yourself this year.

Be kind to your body. Stop criticizing it. It is okay to want to make changes, but you should really respect this body that allows you to live your life.

Nourish your soul. Take a few moments each day to just be. Not everyone has the luxury, and a few moments to grow and reflect are something that should not be wasted.

Do one thing that is only for you each and every day. Get the manicure. Drink the extra cup of coffee. Take the time to wash your face with the fancy lotion. Whatever it is, just do it out of love for yourself.

Learn how to say no. I hear this is an important skill to learn before your 30’s. I am pretty bad at this one, but I am going to try to be better about it.

Watch the TV Show. Sometimes, it really is okay to watch two or three episodes in a row. It won’t kill you.

Eat the dark chocolate. All that rabbit food will get old eventually.

Even if you don’t know what it means, just learn how to be this year.

Cheers to a peace filled, soul searching 2018. May we all figure out this weird decade together.

 

-S

Dear Twenty-Something

Just Enjoy the Now

October 2, 2017

2 October 2017

“It’s so easy to miss the now when you are so focused on the next step. Just enjoy the now.” – Father Rick Martignetti

 

Dear Twenty- Something,

 

It’s finally October. The month you have been waiting for since the summer began. The month when everything slows down. Sure, life is still busy, but this is the good kind of busy- full of cozy dinners in and sweaters and socks.

 

For so long you have been laser focused on just surviving the now so you can get to the next step. But what joy and beauty you are letting fly by while not enjoying the now.

 

Take this season, full of friends, family and gratitude and enjoy each second that comes with it.

 

Wake up a little earlier. Enjoy that extra cup of coffee with your Siggis.

 

Sit a little longer. The dishes can wait. Be present.

 

On that note though, do the dishes before you go to bed. Don’t put off what will only take a few minutes so you can repeat this cycle tomorrow.

 

Give an extra hug. Listen a little longer. Reach out to a friend you haven’t talked to in a while. Spin an extra record. Read an extra chapter.

 

Enjoy these moments now, because they are fleeting, and these very moments that seem so small are what gets you to the next phase you so desperately long for.

 

You’ve got this. You’re doing great. Keep up the good work.

Dear Twenty-Something

I CAN

January 13, 2016

13 January 2016

Dear Twenty-Something,

“Fate is like a strange, unpopular restaurant with odd little waiters who bring you things you never asked for and don’t always like. ” – Lemony Snicket

Growing up is a weird thing. Society has certain stipulations that we “must” live up to, and sometimes, the pressure from the world makes it seem useless.

But- what truly gives impact to a life well lived? Are plans that are counter cultural really bad?

More importantly- why do YOU feel bad? You want to finish school, and you want to have kids. Those are two good and wholesome goals. You want a big time job and to move out? Those are good goals too! What is going to make you happy?

So let growing up be weird. It’s a strange, transitional time in your life, and it’s supposed to be!

Whether you are navigating singlehood, marriage, a new job, a planned or unexpected pregnancy, going back to school or just doing one more load of laundry- you’re doing OKAY! In fact, if you’re putting your all into it, you’re doing GREAT.

Tell yourself every day: I am doing OKAY! I can live to see another day. I can love a little longer, I can grow a little more. I can swallow a tiny bit more pride, I can communicate a little more clearly.

I can. I can. I can.

Tell yourself: I. CAN. Because you can and you will, and you will be great.