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Dear Twenty-Something

Tell Him Your Plans

January 20, 2018

20 January 2018

“All I have seen teaches me to trust the Creator for all I have not seen.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Dear Twenty- Something,

Remember 5 years ago when you laughed at the idea of the quarter life crisis? You thought you had your life under control and the plan you had laid out ahead of you was golden.

Let me share one of my favorite phrases with you: “Want to see God laugh? Tell Him your plans.”

Welp… what goes around, comes around sweetheart.

Just when you tell God that you are willing to trust Him and His plan, and you are okay not knowing the details…. He will take you up on that.

In the moments that follow, when you are scared and wondering what the hell you just did, keep telling yourself to seek out the peace you felt in that initial yes.

He will come through. He will make your wildest dreams come true. He will pave the way.

If faith the size of a mustard seed moves mountains, then let your trust be 10x the size of that.

A deep and unrelenting trust. No matter how scared you are- keep saying yes. Keep telling Him you trust him. If you can find this trust, you will find the tiniest bit of faith, and He will make straight your path.

-S

 

P.S. Read this again when you’re 37 and you think that 50 won’t hold some massive change in your life. Mid-Life crises is probably just as real as quarter life crisis.

Dear Twenty-Something

She Made It Work

January 13, 2018

“She was tough in the best sense of the word. She’d taken blows, the disappointments, and had worked her way through them. Some people, he knew, would have buckled under, found a clutch, or given up. But she had carved a place for herself and made it work.” – Nora Roberts

Dear Twenty- Something,

Once upon a time, a friend told you she never knew anyone who gave 110% to every single thing that they did until she met you.

You pondered this for months, wondering if it was a blessing or a curse. Was it possible to give your all to everything without half- assing any of it?

But you started to realize that she was right. Something in the depths of your soul does not allow you to not give everything your all. No matter how tired you are, no matter how many things keep being added to your plate, you always manage to dig a little deeper and find strength from some unknown reserve.

For so many years you wondered if this would ever pay off. This constant cycle of not being able to give less than your best.

Don’t ever stop. Keep at it. Keep giving it your all. Learn how to take a step back from the activities that aren’t what you should be giving your all to at this current moment. But then jump back in to the rest with gusto.

Be the person you were created to be. Hard working. Tough as nails. A smile on your face.

Keep at it. Don’t ever give up. Keep your head held high. Write one more paper. Get dressed up for one more class. Stay up the extra hour. Get up on hour earlier.

You’ve got this. I believe in you.

– S

Dear Twenty-Something

Just Be

January 5, 2018

5 January 2018

“I live my life in growing orbits which move out over this wondrous world, I am circling around God, around ancient towers and i have been circling for a thousand years. And I still don’t know if I am an eagle or a storm or a great song.”- Ranier Maria Rilke

Dear Twenty- Something,

On a dreamy night filled with bubbles and dancing, the ideas of a fresh start seem to invigorate the soul, begging you just to take the plunge into being the best.

But then the glitz and the glamour of the new year wears off. And all of a sudden you are left with these commitments you have made, even though you only whispered them to yourself.

Stay strong, dear heart. Courage is what you need. The idea of just being is far more important than the idea of being perfect.

It’s 100% okay to not have it all figured out and to not know what you are in this great big life that you are adventuring through.

Commit to learning to love yourself this year.

Be kind to your body. Stop criticizing it. It is okay to want to make changes, but you should really respect this body that allows you to live your life.

Nourish your soul. Take a few moments each day to just be. Not everyone has the luxury, and a few moments to grow and reflect are something that should not be wasted.

Do one thing that is only for you each and every day. Get the manicure. Drink the extra cup of coffee. Take the time to wash your face with the fancy lotion. Whatever it is, just do it out of love for yourself.

Learn how to say no. I hear this is an important skill to learn before your 30’s. I am pretty bad at this one, but I am going to try to be better about it.

Watch the TV Show. Sometimes, it really is okay to watch two or three episodes in a row. It won’t kill you.

Eat the dark chocolate. All that rabbit food will get old eventually.

Even if you don’t know what it means, just learn how to be this year.

Cheers to a peace filled, soul searching 2018. May we all figure out this weird decade together.

 

-S

Dear Twenty-Something

Just Enjoy the Now

October 2, 2017

2 October 2017

“It’s so easy to miss the now when you are so focused on the next step. Just enjoy the now.” – Father Rick Martignetti

 

Dear Twenty- Something,

 

It’s finally October. The month you have been waiting for since the summer began. The month when everything slows down. Sure, life is still busy, but this is the good kind of busy- full of cozy dinners in and sweaters and socks.

 

For so long you have been laser focused on just surviving the now so you can get to the next step. But what joy and beauty you are letting fly by while not enjoying the now.

 

Take this season, full of friends, family and gratitude and enjoy each second that comes with it.

 

Wake up a little earlier. Enjoy that extra cup of coffee with your Siggis.

 

Sit a little longer. The dishes can wait. Be present.

 

On that note though, do the dishes before you go to bed. Don’t put off what will only take a few minutes so you can repeat this cycle tomorrow.

 

Give an extra hug. Listen a little longer. Reach out to a friend you haven’t talked to in a while. Spin an extra record. Read an extra chapter.

 

Enjoy these moments now, because they are fleeting, and these very moments that seem so small are what gets you to the next phase you so desperately long for.

 

You’ve got this. You’re doing great. Keep up the good work.

Dear Twenty-Something

I CAN

January 13, 2016

13 January 2016

Dear Twenty-Something,

“Fate is like a strange, unpopular restaurant with odd little waiters who bring you things you never asked for and don’t always like. ” – Lemony Snicket

Growing up is a weird thing. Society has certain stipulations that we “must” live up to, and sometimes, the pressure from the world makes it seem useless.

But- what truly gives impact to a life well lived? Are plans that are counter cultural really bad?

More importantly- why do YOU feel bad? You want to finish school, and you want to have kids. Those are two good and wholesome goals. You want a big time job and to move out? Those are good goals too! What is going to make you happy?

So let growing up be weird. It’s a strange, transitional time in your life, and it’s supposed to be!

Whether you are navigating singlehood, marriage, a new job, a planned or unexpected pregnancy, going back to school or just doing one more load of laundry- you’re doing OKAY! In fact, if you’re putting your all into it, you’re doing GREAT.

Tell yourself every day: I am doing OKAY! I can live to see another day. I can love a little longer, I can grow a little more. I can swallow a tiny bit more pride, I can communicate a little more clearly.

I can. I can. I can.

Tell yourself: I. CAN. Because you can and you will, and you will be great.

Dear Twenty-Something

HOPE BUILDS TOMORROW

November 6, 2015

6 November 2015

Dear Twenty- Something,

“I don’t think of all the misery, but of the beauty that still remains.”- Anne Frank

Why hello there! How are you doing today? Take a deep breath. Yesterday is in the past, and no one has to know about your melt down over that pound of folgers coffee you wanted.

Moving to a new town is hard. Say it with me: its OKAY to be a hot friggin mess. People tell you that you might come to love the charm of this small (middle of nowhere?) town. You might. Lets check back in May to make that decision.

But right now its okay that you hate it. Its all so new and so different and all of your creature comforts are gone.

But let me challenge you: find beauty  in being here for this brief moment. In every season He is present. Sure the leaves aren’t as pretty, the sky always looks bleak and fall just doesn’t seem quite the same. But beauty can be found- in the deep breath of fresh air, and the peek of sunshine every once in a while. Sure this big new space you are calling your own seems like it will never come together and you’re going to live in chaos for the rest of your life, but you have a house, heat, TV and a roommate who loves you.

Keep breathing. When it seems as if the only solution is to cry- breathe. Tears are okay. They can soothe and heal a weary heart. But don’t let them become bitter, for bitterness is hard to weed out.

When it seems that people don’t appreciate you its probably because they don’t. But take heart in those that do! Even if they are few, you ARE making a difference, you are doing something GOOD.

Most importantly, never give up hope. Hope helps build tomorrow. Hope helps make today sane. Hold on to hope.

Dear Twenty-Something

TEAR DOWN YOUR WALLS

October 26, 2015

26 October 2015

Dear Twenty- Something,

“The world is indeed full of peril, and in it there are many dark places; but still there is much that is fair, and though in all the lands love is no mingled with grief, it grows perhaps the greater.” – J.R.R. Tolkien

Hello dear one. Are you hanging in okay? I know life can be challenging- believe me, I know.

Life can get so overwhelming can’t it? Take a deep breath. There. Feeling more steady? Now Listen:

Mighty fortress, tear down your walls. They do nothing but isolate you. At one point in your life, they may have made you strong, but now they only cause deep shadows to block out the light.

Wall of stone, your tears will destroy you. Let them. As you feel yourself crumble, let others catch you. They want to help- let them.

Oh jaded one, smile. Circumstances all around you make it seem impossible and it is easier to go on the defensive, don’t.

Choose to let others help you. Choose to let others love you. It will of course be humbling, but humility is known to make better people.

Take delight in the small victories. Wholesome meals. Clean kitchen. Cycling Laundry. Time to watch your favorite show before work. See! Better than you thought. Keep your head up, and continue to breathe.

You are going to be okay.

Dear Twenty-Something

I SEE YOU.

October 25, 2015

25 October 2015

Dear Twenty- Something,

“Youth cannot know how age thinks and feels. But old men are guilty if they forget what it was to be young.” _- J.K Rowling

 

I see you. Eating Chips and Salsa as your meal or the eight time this weekend (and yes for the record that broccoli that you sautéed last night totally counts). Hair, one day greasy, slicked back into a giant messy bun with one or two fly aways you’ve just dang given up on. Hoping beyond hope that no one is questioning those saggy yoga pants that haven’t been washed in three days because the cardigan and dress shirt are distracting them.

I hear your whispered prayer, begging God to let you make it to the end of your shift so you can crawl into bed, turn on netflix and drink a beer.

I feel your desperation, as you wonder if you’ve turned into a zombie  yet and how the hell did you become one of those people who NEEDS sleep?

You are doing okay. Sure, your house looks like a war zone, and its weird to be living in that house with the new roommate gone all week but you’re doing okay.

Exhaustion will pass and that warm bed and cold beer will wait for you. Keep your head up. All things new are scary and overwhelming. Let others help you. You cannot do it alone, no matter how hard you try.

And cut those older people some slack. They trivialize what you are going through because they forget what it’s like to be in this moment. You can roll your eyes and be upset, but why let it bother you? Yes, it sucks and they are at fault for forgetting, but let it be a lesson for you NOT to forget.

Don’t let yourself be bitter. Fit it. Absolutely fight it. There is joy to be had to HAVE IT!

PS- while you are riding the adrenaline high of finishing a major task, take off your bra  and do the things that will make tomorrow easier (aka dishes and laundry).

Dear Twenty-Something

YOU WILL CHANGE THE WORLD

October 24, 2015

24 October 2015

Dear Twenty- Something,

“It is Jesus that you seek when you dream of happiness; He is waiting for you when nothing else you find satisfies you; He is the beauty to which you are so attracted; it is He who provoked you with that thirst for fullness that will not let you settle for compromise; it is He who urges you to shed the masks of false life; it is He who reads in your heart your most genuine choices, the choices that others try to stifle.

It is Jesus who stirs in your the desire to do something great with your lives, the will to follow an ideal, the refusal to allow yourselves to be ground down by mediocrity, the courage to commit yourselves and society, making the world more human and more fraternal.” – JPII

 

You. Yes, You. Weary, tired and worn twenty something. You want the world and you mercilessly mock those who have what you do not. Just sit for a while. Rest your soul. That yearning you feel- for success, for travel, for greatness. For the dream girl, for the glory. You have big plans. Your life, like the tiles of a board game will twist and turn in ways you won’t expect.

It is Jesus that you seek dear one. Do not let yourself forget. The hour will come when you are faced with a decision too great for your weak heart and I beg you- choose LOVE.

Courage, oh down trodden heart. You are never alone. You may feel she will never come, or that he will never be good enough. In the darkest night of your soul you will feel lonely, but you are NOT alone.

Cry out to Him who has made you unwhole. He is the only one that will fill your cavernous heart. You may feel weak, but those tears will make you brave.

Do not settle. Why waste a beautiful life on anything but your absolute best? Make a list, but don’t get caught up on the small things. They may seem like big things right now and hell, you may NEED to accomplish them, but don’t let them distract you from your final goal- becoming your fullest self.

Oh proud young adult, do not be afraid to make mistakes. He sees your most genuine desires. You think you have it ll figured out- You Don’t. When you mess up royally, seek forgiveness. Sincerely apologize, and truly work to make it better.

Oh wandering soul, seek beauty in everything around you. Enjoy all things that point to a greater good, no matter how great or how small. It is the small moments of radiant joy that help you when the road gets dark.

Oh stranger, won’t you sit a while? Take off the mask you hide behind. It is only Him asking to see your tired eyes and your small half smile. What have you got to lose?

You. Yes, you. Weary and tired twenty something are destined for greatness. Don’t forget it or let your self be blinded by the seemingly mundane. In small acts, done with great love you will change the world.