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Dear Twenty-Something

Dear Twenty-Something

July 27, 2018

27 July 2018

“I don’t think anyone can grow unless he’s loved exactly as he is now, appreciated for what he is rather than what he will be.” – Fred Rogers

Dear Twenty-Something,

How’s it going? Did you do something to take care of yourself today?

As you start to ease into this new part of your life (second half of your twenties?! Where did the time go?!) I want you to remember to love yourself in this exact moment, exactly where you are.

The family you have. The place you live. The food you eat. The friends you have.

There’s really no need to worry about what comes next. Just know that it will all fall into place exactly when it is supposed to.

Listen to that small voice that whispers in the recesses of your heart and stirs you to change.

Chase the peace that still small voice brings into your life. Don’t ever stop searching for the answers to those deepest longings of your heart.

Love your friends. Reach out, check in, make sure they are doing okay. These are weird times for them also.

You rock. I am so proud of you for continuing to just wait and see.

You’ve got this.

-S

Dear Twenty-Something

Don’t Forget What You Need

July 13, 2018

13 July 2018

“To bad, but its the life you lead, you’re so ahead of yourself, that you forgot what you need. Though you can see when you’re wrong you know you can’t always see when you’re right, you’re right.” – Billy Joel

Dear Twenty- Something,

Stop for a moment to breathe. The world will continue to turn, and your life will continue to move forward, even with this brief respite.

Your choices seem limitless. Your future is bright.

Stop and smell the roses. Read the book. Cook the meal. Call the friend.

These small moments are the sustenance you need to make it to the next whirling dervish of crazy.

You’re on to something good. These moments where you are letting go of control and letting a power greater than your own take it on are the moments you need to remember.

Life is better when you don’t have to have it all figured out.

Enjoy the people around you. Listen to their stories. Build them up. Carry them through their storm.

For the endless cycle of love and support should never end.

You were right all along. Things were going to start looking up.

That time is now.

Enjoy it.

-S

Dear Twenty-Something

Don’t Let Anyone Tell You That You Can’t

June 23, 2018

23 June 2018

“Anyone who has ever been able to sustain good work has had at least one person–and often many–who have believed in him or her. We just don’t get to be competent human beings without a lot of different investments from others.” – Mr. Rogers

Dear Twenty- Something,

Take a look at that person in the mirror.

See those eyes staring back at you? The ones that so often were filled with tears these past six months?

Look in those eyes. Those are the eyes of someone who finally reached the oasis.

Those grey hairs you are so desperately trying to hide?

Badges of honor for a battle well fought.

Now look at that weary person in the mirror and say: YOU DID IT. YOU did it.

There. That feels a little better- no?

Now stop and think of all of the people: the friends who prayed you through. The parents who let you cry and shout. The husband who woke up day in and day out to make you coffee. The people who checked in. The people who understood when plans had to be cancelled.

Thank them. Without them, you wouldn’t be here right now. These are the people that love you the most.

Take a deep breath. What once seemed impossible, is done.

 

You did it.

You. Freaking. Did. It. 

Don’t you ever let anyone tell you that you can’t.

-S

 

Dear Twenty-Something

Life is Like a Pair of Jack Rogers

June 3, 2018

02 June 2017

“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.” – Robert Frost

Dear Twenty- Something,

Life is like a pair of Jack Rogers.

Breaking them in can absolutely hurt, but ultimately they are beautiful.

Hang in there. Those shoes you never would’ve worn three years ago? They look pretty dang good now.

Sometimes life is full of twists and turns you never could even possibly begin to imagine. There will be heartbreak. There will be pain.

But in the end, something beautiful will come of this crazy thing you call life.

Keep your head  held up high.

Look for the beautiful things in each and every day.

Life is good.

-S

Dear Twenty-Something

The Mind is Not Loyal to You

May 26, 2018

25 May 2018

“Don’t be so loyal to your mind: the mind is not loyal to you.” (Bert McCoy)

Dearly Twenty- Something,

Stop and smell the roses. Take time to breathe and acknowledge the beauty that each moment provides for you.

Sure, there may be something that seems better, or the grass may be greener on the other side, but where you are in this exact moment is just where you need to be.

Did you know you can change the way you think and process the world around you? I sure as heck didn’t until today!

Take some time to reflect and figure out exactly what you need in this current moment of your life.

Enjoy each moment. Soak up the sunshine. Revel in the little things.

Don’t forget where you came from, and don’t ever forget the dream of where you want to go.

Sometimes anxiety can take over not only your mind, but also your world. It can inundate you to the point you don’t even know if you can do your basic chores. But stop trusting your mind, and start trusting that quiet inner voice that says “I can.”

You are stronger than you think.

You are strong.

You are beautiful.

You are loved.

-S

Dear Twenty-Something

May 4, 2018

4 May 2018

”When we try to control our own live, timelines, and circumstances, it creates tension and anxiety in our hearts. Control of these things is simply an illusion. Controlling all the circumstances of our lives is and always will be entirely impossible.” – Emily Wilson, Go Bravely

Dear Twenty- Something,

How often do you try to make everything happen on your own? Why do you feel the need to be an island?

Stop, oh weary one. Let your heart rest. No man is an island, and you do not need to be either.

Take a deep breath. Let the peace of knowing you are not alone wash over you.

Let the tears flow. It is okay to be confused, overwhelmed or so overcome with happiness you don’t know what to do other than cry.

Stop and count your blessings. You have so much to be grateful for.

Life is beautiful.

Don’t ever forget that.

~S

Dear Twenty-Something

Your Dreams Are Not Dead

April 21, 2018

20 April 2018

 

“Wildflower; pick up your pretty little head,
It will get easier, your dreams are not dead.”

– Nikki Rowe

 

Dear Twenty- Something,

Does it feel like everything is just hitting rock bottom for you right now? The stress keeps mounting, and all those things you are working so hard to accomplish feel like they are never going to come to fruition.

Get the degree, they said. You won’t regret it. Yet, as you sit through another group meeting on a Friday night, you have to ask yourself: was this really all that worth it? You gave up so much of your life for this. It better be worth it.

Quit the job, you decided. But you also don’t know how to have free time, and you are constantly worried about how others might see you.

Stop.

Breathe.

There you go. You’ve got this.

Everything happens for a reason. Isn’t that a mantra you preach to your friends?

You are exactly where you need to be, in this exact moment in time. Do not forget that.

Soak in every moment. You will never be in this exact moment again. Don’t miss any part of it.

Look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself those questions that helped to form the person you are today:

Who am I? What do I want?

It’s time for an update anyways. Your dreams have evolved, just as you have, and a re-evaluation is always welcome in your life.

You are strong. You are beatiful. You are loved.

Don’t ever forget it.

-S

 

Dear Twenty-Something

So Can You

April 15, 2018

15 April 2018

“If

the ocean

can calm itself,

so can you.

we

are both

salt water

mixed with

air.”

– Nayyirah Waheed

 

Dear Twenty- Something,

Take a deep breath. It’s all going to work out okay. I know that sometimes it feels like the world is against you, and no matter how hard you try to make it all work it just doesn’t.

Recently your life has felt tumultuous. Actually, lets rephrase that, your life has felt like a tsunami that just keeps hitting over and over again, each wave seeming bigger than the last.

Find your anchor and hold on for dear life. This too will pass, and when it does, the calm will be surprising.

Take some time to really see where this life thing is trying to take you. One day at a time, you’ll start to figure it out.

Be still. In the recesses of your soul lies a strength you didn’t know existed.

Be grateful. Your life is beautiful.

Take the next step and do not be afraid to see where the new adventure is taking you!

I believe in you.

-S

P.S. Sorry that this is a few days late. Behind the blog is a girl with friends to celebrate, and family to support. But I am happy to put this up now 🙂 See you tomorrow friends!

Dear Twenty-Something

What Could You Do With 15 Minutes?

February 9, 2018

9 February 2018

“The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.” – Henry David Thoreau

Dear Twenty- Something,

Now is as good a time as ever to re-evaluate the way your days go.

How much of your day is spent scrolling through your feed?

Or maybe sending amazing snapchats?

If you had to leave it behind today, do you think you’d be okay?

How much do these online versions of yourself “cost”?  Go ahead and eliminate the parts of your virtual self that just don’t make you happy any more.

Yes. I am challenging YOU. Do what is going to make you a happier, healthier, better person. Make space for the things that lift you up, rather than the things that bog you down.

-S

PS- In the time I would have been scrolling I was able to clean my whole kitchen… I wonder what other things I would be able to accomplish in a 15 minute span if I just wasn’t constantly scrolling… What could you be doing in those extra 15 minutes too?!

 

Dear Twenty-Something

Happiness, Living in My Environment

February 4, 2018

4 February 2018

“The objective of cleaning is not just to clean, but to feel happiness living within that environment.”- Marie Kondo

Dear Twenty- Something,

I know that life can be overwhelming. So often it seems that things start piling up, and then they just don’t stop.

Skip one day of laundry and all of a sudden you have no clean clothes.

May as well stop buying fresh food, am I right? It all goes to the drawer of good intentions anyways because you forgot you bought it and its probably a certifiable science experiment.

Don’t even get me started on the pantry. Forget KonMari. That cannot be real.

But wait… hold on! There is hope yet.

Take a deep breath. Yes, life is crazy busy and you feel like you don’t have nearly enough time in a day. But it will only take you a few hours. Set aside the time. “Ground” yourself for just one day. Throw dinner in the crockpot and tackle a few things so you can breathe this week.

Pick up all those loose papers from your assignments this week and put the pillows back on the couch.

Reorganize your tupperware cabinet so you can find all of the lids.

Throw out all the expired food and put all of the snacks you can still eat in easy to reach areas so when you are packing your lunch you are ready to go.

All of a sudden, dinner is ready, the house is clean and you’re ready to watch some football.

I promise it doesn’t take that long, and that the peace you’ll feel afterwards is so worth it.

Call it a mental health day.

Do it for yourself. You won’t regret it.

 

-S