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Dear Twenty-Something

Life is Like a Pair of Jack Rogers

June 3, 2018

02 June 2017

“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.” – Robert Frost

Dear Twenty- Something,

Life is like a pair of Jack Rogers.

Breaking them in can absolutely hurt, but ultimately they are beautiful.

Hang in there. Those shoes you never would’ve worn three years ago? They look pretty dang good now.

Sometimes life is full of twists and turns you never could even possibly begin to imagine. There will be heartbreak. There will be pain.

But in the end, something beautiful will come of this crazy thing you call life.

Keep your head  held up high.

Look for the beautiful things in each and every day.

Life is good.

-S

Dear Twenty-Something

The Mind is Not Loyal to You

May 26, 2018

25 May 2018

“Don’t be so loyal to your mind: the mind is not loyal to you.” (Bert McCoy)

Dearly Twenty- Something,

Stop and smell the roses. Take time to breathe and acknowledge the beauty that each moment provides for you.

Sure, there may be something that seems better, or the grass may be greener on the other side, but where you are in this exact moment is just where you need to be.

Did you know you can change the way you think and process the world around you? I sure as heck didn’t until today!

Take some time to reflect and figure out exactly what you need in this current moment of your life.

Enjoy each moment. Soak up the sunshine. Revel in the little things.

Don’t forget where you came from, and don’t ever forget the dream of where you want to go.

Sometimes anxiety can take over not only your mind, but also your world. It can inundate you to the point you don’t even know if you can do your basic chores. But stop trusting your mind, and start trusting that quiet inner voice that says “I can.”

You are stronger than you think.

You are strong.

You are beautiful.

You are loved.

-S

Dear Twenty-Something

May 4, 2018

4 May 2018

”When we try to control our own live, timelines, and circumstances, it creates tension and anxiety in our hearts. Control of these things is simply an illusion. Controlling all the circumstances of our lives is and always will be entirely impossible.” – Emily Wilson, Go Bravely

Dear Twenty- Something,

How often do you try to make everything happen on your own? Why do you feel the need to be an island?

Stop, oh weary one. Let your heart rest. No man is an island, and you do not need to be either.

Take a deep breath. Let the peace of knowing you are not alone wash over you.

Let the tears flow. It is okay to be confused, overwhelmed or so overcome with happiness you don’t know what to do other than cry.

Stop and count your blessings. You have so much to be grateful for.

Life is beautiful.

Don’t ever forget that.

~S

Dear Twenty-Something

Your Dreams Are Not Dead

April 21, 2018

20 April 2018

 

“Wildflower; pick up your pretty little head,
It will get easier, your dreams are not dead.”

– Nikki Rowe

 

Dear Twenty- Something,

Does it feel like everything is just hitting rock bottom for you right now? The stress keeps mounting, and all those things you are working so hard to accomplish feel like they are never going to come to fruition.

Get the degree, they said. You won’t regret it. Yet, as you sit through another group meeting on a Friday night, you have to ask yourself: was this really all that worth it? You gave up so much of your life for this. It better be worth it.

Quit the job, you decided. But you also don’t know how to have free time, and you are constantly worried about how others might see you.

Stop.

Breathe.

There you go. You’ve got this.

Everything happens for a reason. Isn’t that a mantra you preach to your friends?

You are exactly where you need to be, in this exact moment in time. Do not forget that.

Soak in every moment. You will never be in this exact moment again. Don’t miss any part of it.

Look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself those questions that helped to form the person you are today:

Who am I? What do I want?

It’s time for an update anyways. Your dreams have evolved, just as you have, and a re-evaluation is always welcome in your life.

You are strong. You are beatiful. You are loved.

Don’t ever forget it.

-S

 

Dear Twenty-Something

So Can You

April 15, 2018

15 April 2018

“If

the ocean

can calm itself,

so can you.

we

are both

salt water

mixed with

air.”

– Nayyirah Waheed

 

Dear Twenty- Something,

Take a deep breath. It’s all going to work out okay. I know that sometimes it feels like the world is against you, and no matter how hard you try to make it all work it just doesn’t.

Recently your life has felt tumultuous. Actually, lets rephrase that, your life has felt like a tsunami that just keeps hitting over and over again, each wave seeming bigger than the last.

Find your anchor and hold on for dear life. This too will pass, and when it does, the calm will be surprising.

Take some time to really see where this life thing is trying to take you. One day at a time, you’ll start to figure it out.

Be still. In the recesses of your soul lies a strength you didn’t know existed.

Be grateful. Your life is beautiful.

Take the next step and do not be afraid to see where the new adventure is taking you!

I believe in you.

-S

P.S. Sorry that this is a few days late. Behind the blog is a girl with friends to celebrate, and family to support. But I am happy to put this up now 🙂 See you tomorrow friends!

Dear Twenty-Something

What Could You Do With 15 Minutes?

February 9, 2018

9 February 2018

“The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.” – Henry David Thoreau

Dear Twenty- Something,

Now is as good a time as ever to re-evaluate the way your days go.

How much of your day is spent scrolling through your feed?

Or maybe sending amazing snapchats?

If you had to leave it behind today, do you think you’d be okay?

How much do these online versions of yourself “cost”?  Go ahead and eliminate the parts of your virtual self that just don’t make you happy any more.

Yes. I am challenging YOU. Do what is going to make you a happier, healthier, better person. Make space for the things that lift you up, rather than the things that bog you down.

-S

PS- In the time I would have been scrolling I was able to clean my whole kitchen… I wonder what other things I would be able to accomplish in a 15 minute span if I just wasn’t constantly scrolling… What could you be doing in those extra 15 minutes too?!

 

Dear Twenty-Something

Happiness, Living in My Environment

February 4, 2018

4 February 2018

“The objective of cleaning is not just to clean, but to feel happiness living within that environment.”- Marie Kondo

Dear Twenty- Something,

I know that life can be overwhelming. So often it seems that things start piling up, and then they just don’t stop.

Skip one day of laundry and all of a sudden you have no clean clothes.

May as well stop buying fresh food, am I right? It all goes to the drawer of good intentions anyways because you forgot you bought it and its probably a certifiable science experiment.

Don’t even get me started on the pantry. Forget KonMari. That cannot be real.

But wait… hold on! There is hope yet.

Take a deep breath. Yes, life is crazy busy and you feel like you don’t have nearly enough time in a day. But it will only take you a few hours. Set aside the time. “Ground” yourself for just one day. Throw dinner in the crockpot and tackle a few things so you can breathe this week.

Pick up all those loose papers from your assignments this week and put the pillows back on the couch.

Reorganize your tupperware cabinet so you can find all of the lids.

Throw out all the expired food and put all of the snacks you can still eat in easy to reach areas so when you are packing your lunch you are ready to go.

All of a sudden, dinner is ready, the house is clean and you’re ready to watch some football.

I promise it doesn’t take that long, and that the peace you’ll feel afterwards is so worth it.

Call it a mental health day.

Do it for yourself. You won’t regret it.

 

-S

Dear Twenty-Something

Eat.Sleep.Work.Repeat.

January 27, 2018

26 January 2018

“Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day.” – A.A. Milne, Winnie the Pooh

Dear Twenty- Something,

Take a deep breath. Keep going. I know you want to have everything figured out right this very second. Don’t we all?

There is no hurry. One day is enough to worry about without needing to worry about all the rest of the days too. Get through today. Get through this week. Get through this month. Get through this year.

Change is coming. Can you feel it in the breeze? Good things are coming, just wait and see.

 

Finish the paper.

 

Submit one more document.

 

Go to one more class.

 

eat.sleep.work.repeat.

 

The Grind. 

 

You’ve got this. I believe in you!

 

– S

P.S. Drink all of the grapefruit seltzer. You deserve a little bit of extra joy in your life.

Dear Twenty-Something

Tell Him Your Plans

January 20, 2018

20 January 2018

“All I have seen teaches me to trust the Creator for all I have not seen.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Dear Twenty- Something,

Remember 5 years ago when you laughed at the idea of the quarter life crisis? You thought you had your life under control and the plan you had laid out ahead of you was golden.

Let me share one of my favorite phrases with you: “Want to see God laugh? Tell Him your plans.”

Welp… what goes around, comes around sweetheart.

Just when you tell God that you are willing to trust Him and His plan, and you are okay not knowing the details…. He will take you up on that.

In the moments that follow, when you are scared and wondering what the hell you just did, keep telling yourself to seek out the peace you felt in that initial yes.

He will come through. He will make your wildest dreams come true. He will pave the way.

If faith the size of a mustard seed moves mountains, then let your trust be 10x the size of that.

A deep and unrelenting trust. No matter how scared you are- keep saying yes. Keep telling Him you trust him. If you can find this trust, you will find the tiniest bit of faith, and He will make straight your path.

-S

 

P.S. Read this again when you’re 37 and you think that 50 won’t hold some massive change in your life. Mid-Life crises is probably just as real as quarter life crisis.

Dear Twenty-Something

She Made It Work

January 13, 2018

“She was tough in the best sense of the word. She’d taken blows, the disappointments, and had worked her way through them. Some people, he knew, would have buckled under, found a clutch, or given up. But she had carved a place for herself and made it work.” – Nora Roberts

Dear Twenty- Something,

Once upon a time, a friend told you she never knew anyone who gave 110% to every single thing that they did until she met you.

You pondered this for months, wondering if it was a blessing or a curse. Was it possible to give your all to everything without half- assing any of it?

But you started to realize that she was right. Something in the depths of your soul does not allow you to not give everything your all. No matter how tired you are, no matter how many things keep being added to your plate, you always manage to dig a little deeper and find strength from some unknown reserve.

For so many years you wondered if this would ever pay off. This constant cycle of not being able to give less than your best.

Don’t ever stop. Keep at it. Keep giving it your all. Learn how to take a step back from the activities that aren’t what you should be giving your all to at this current moment. But then jump back in to the rest with gusto.

Be the person you were created to be. Hard working. Tough as nails. A smile on your face.

Keep at it. Don’t ever give up. Keep your head held high. Write one more paper. Get dressed up for one more class. Stay up the extra hour. Get up on hour earlier.

You’ve got this. I believe in you.

– S